So often when couples hit the hard times they conclude, “Something must be wrong with my marriage. I must have made a mistake. I married a difficult person. I need someone who will treat me better.” And in some situations those conclusion can be the right conclusion when it comes to abuse, adultery, etc….
But it’s very important to realize that all relationships are difficult. It doesn’t’ matter if your talking about friendships, family, church or professional relationships—they all take work.
We can feel slighted, hurt, and misunderstood, then “Miss Thang” comes along and @WOW! We think, She treats me nice; she laughs at my jokes….
And you’re in the “WOW” stage. After the newness of any relationship wears off, all that’s left is just the hard work of learning each other, of extending patience toward each other, of giving ample grace to one other.
That’s the hard work of relationships. But you if you stick with it, you hit a point where you say, “Oh my goodness! I know them; they know me, and our love has been tested and tried and stood the test of time.”
Some people sow seeds in the springtime, pull weeds in the hot summer time, but bail out before the harvest. You have to stick around for the best part!
What is something you’ve learned or are learning in your marriage?